Friday, October 24, 2008

And All That Jazz...!

There's nothing like a good movie to remind you of past dreams - ok, current dreams - however, dreams that probably will never materialize. I say probably with emphasis here because, and I quote myself, if I really want something, have the passion for it, I can make anything happen.

That is, anything within reason.

So what's my dream, you ask? To dance on Broadway. Oh, yeah. No small ticket here. I started dancing when I was 5 and haven't stopped yet. You should ask my kids. They endure mom stepping it up and singing at the top of her lungs every chance she gets. Why? I love to sing and dance. LOVE IT. I don't use that word often when it comes to "things" (other than good food, but that's questionable whether food is a "thing"...it's more like a necessity, and therefore...oh, never mind).

So back to Broadway. I did get close. Oh, yeah, I did. I had my one chance that my simple teenage mind could scheme up and I went for it. Trouble is, the New York Rockets have a height requirement: You must be 5'6". I'm 5'3"...5'4" on a good day. So needless to say, I fell short on that score.

I went on to dance in the All County Dance Ensemble and in college, both big and small...however, the more life and all it's charm entered into the picture, the more and more dancing took a backseat.

However, I've never given up on the dream. I choreograph constantly when I hear music, feel a big number comin' on, and periodically chance to dream again. Will I ever get another opportunity to audition? To dance and sing in the spot light? Maybe. There are plenty of local community based spots around here and one of these days I'll get my chance.

Until then, I'll just keep my tap routines to the kitchen, the big dances to the living room, and my critics safely tucked into bed. Nighty, night. Sweet dreams.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Reaching that goal: the first 100 pages

I have to brag here and I think it's very healthy for writers, especially closet writers, to brag. I've written my first 100 pages!

I've never gotten this far before. Life has ALWAYS gotten in the way...it's just the way it goes. Life is life, and it will not slow down ever, even if you want to write a novel. It's relentless. However, if you want to write a novel, you have to write in spite of life.

So, when you finally do get that idea that won't leave you alone, those characters who keep asking you, "when are we going to get together?", and the subsequent other ideas that are starting to back up behind the novel idea that you've been putting on hold...and you actually SIT DOWN and begin to WRITE, that first one hundred page hurdle seems so far away. Write and write as you may, it's totally nerve raking and seems unattainable.

However, once you get there, once you have your first 100 pages written, it's like taking in the view after climbing a mountain. 100 pages!?!? I wrote 100 page!??!? You email all your writing buddies to tell them about it. You just can't hold in your own astonishment and joy. You tell your hubby who, understandably, is equally astonished as well. "So you are writting down there. I thought you were just surfing the web."

So few people actually do what they set out to do because of that pesky life, however we can all reach our dreams. I think what holds most of us back is that first step. That first goal: those first 100 pages. How brilliant would it be if you were among those few to acutally preserver and go beyond your comfort zone and just do what needs to be done?

There are a multitude of books out there that contain thousands of pages helping us would be novelists reach our goals. However, after reading many, many, I've found that there is no real check list or magical concoction out there that will do the trick. You really have to do the work all on your own.

The best 'how to' book on novel writting that I've come across is Walter Mosley's This Year You Write Your Novel. It's the shortest book that I've ever read on the topic, yet the most powerfully helpful. It's how I got to my own first 100 pages!

So, if you're having trouble getting there, get the book! Check it out at the library, order it online, whatever. You can read it in an afternoon and actually, while reading it, you'll even wonder at times, "Is this really all that helpful?" It's just so short and sweet and with really big font, that it seems silly in comparison. But then, towards the end, you just get it! And it's an amazing feeling, like magic. You get that confidence that you need to push yourself to find the time, sit down, and write.

So, taking a lead from Mr. Mosley, here are 4 quick easy writing rules to help you conquer that first 100 page hurdle:
  1. All 1st drafts suck!
    Point blank and simple. No one else is going to read it but you, so just write it already!

  2. Don't look back!
    When you sit down to write, very breifly read over a tiny bit of what you last wrote and then MOVE ON. Keep going! Don't reread everything everytime you sit down. That will only cause you to start editing, and editing, and editing. You can edit until you die! So don't do it! Just keep going. How else are you going to get to the end? By keep going over the beginning?

  3. Always Remember Rule #1
    When you sit back and think over what you have written, just remember rule #1. Your first draft WILL suck! Yes...it sucks! We all know it sucks. Fight every possible urge to go back over it and edit it to death. You will get plenty of opportunities to edit once you have finished.

  4. Write
    Duh! But no, really. Write! If you don't write, you'll never get that first 100 pages done. Write whenever you can. And do it everyday, if you can. The closer to everyday that you can get, the better. Don't just do this on the weekends, or worse, once a month, once a year...once a day is the only way (ooh, I was a poet and didn't know it). Now, don't get upset with me here. Writing, everyday = thinking, writing, day dreaming, and/OR editing. You don't actually have to write to write. KWIM? If you spend time everyday even just thinking about your plot, the characters, what you want to write next time you have a chance...guess what? You are writing! Isn't that way of thinking just so freeing!
So, there you have it! I wish you the BEST of luck in your writing. And know, that once you move past that first 100 page hurdle, the next 100 pages just all of a sudden happens! It did for me. I'm at 276 pages right now and seeing how simple it was once I past that first huge hurdle, I can't wait to write to the end. I hope to have my crappy first draft done in time to bring in the new year! Then, the all encompassing event of editing.

Have FUN writing,
Lia

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Drink some Magic Tea!

Magic Tea - Slowly sip this Magic Tea and feel it's healing powers! :)

At the slightest provocation of a cold, sore throat, ear ache, or sinus problems of anyone that crosses my threshold, I jump to the kitchen and brew up some magic. It doesn't matter how young or old you are, Magic Tea will either cure what ails you or, at the very least, help sooth the symptoms. It's easy, cheap, and you can't have too much (won't turn on you like medications if you 'over dose').

Ingredients:
  • Hot water
  • tea bag - your favorite
  • a tiny sliver of a smooshed clove garlic (the braver the patient, the bigger the clove!)
  • honey (as much as you like)
  • apple cider vinegar (1 teaspoon)
  • 1-2 ice cubes

Directions:
  • brew your favorite tea and add honey
    (however much honey you want, but you'll need some and it's great for sore throats)
  • add apple cider vinegar
  • before adding garlic, add ice cubes to bring down the temp.
    (If you cook the garlic, you'll loose all the magic!)
  • once tea is cool enough BUT still warm, add the smashed garlic
  • stir, and sip slowly
Drink this 1-3 times a day as soon as you feel the symptoms of a cold/flu/ear ache/sinus trouble. It's magic!

The magic is the combination of vinegar, garlic, honey, and warmth

  • Apple Cider Vinegar: helps 'open' you up and is high in Vitamin C

  • Garlic: when you smash it (to the point it's almost liquid) you release allicin, Garlic's antibiotic mother load! however, if you cook it, you kill all the power (aka, all the good guys that will destroy the bacteria)

  • Honey: Nature's elixer, very good to sooth a sore throat, and is anti-bacterial

  • Warmth: the hot water opens your sinuses and helps all the magic above seep into the right spots ;)

Tip: If you need more honey to 'mask' the garlic, go for it. You can't have too much (so long as your not allergic)

Hope everyone has good luck this upcoming cold season. Take it easy, take care of yourself, and DO NOT hang out with any sickos!!! It's just not worth it. You can always see them in the Spring ;)


Friday, September 12, 2008

What's for dinner?

Ever fill out one of those emails that your family and friends spam you with that asks you a million questions to 'learn a bit about each other'? Well, I know I have and I find them fun. However, year after year, always the same questions... I also find them boring!

While cooking everyday, chopping away, I think about all my cookin' family and friends and wonder what THEY are cooking and chopping away at. Add that curiosity with the experience of filling out questionnaire after questionnaire and... presto!
So now, without further ado, here's my "What's for dinner? Get to know your cookin' family and friends" questionnaire!

Feel free to copy, paste and spam! :)

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So...what's for dinner?!
Get to know your family and friends by finding out how they cook, what they like and all that jazz!
20 questions
Bon apitite!
;)


1. What's for dinner tonight?

2. Do you do all or most of the cooking?

3. What is your signature/favorite food to make? What are you known for?

4. Favorite food to chop?

5. Least favorite food to prepare that you have to cook?

6. What was the last thing you made/cooked?

7. What was the last thing someone made for you?

8. How often do you burn your food? What are you known to burn?

9. What's your signature/favorite breakfast?

10. What's your signature/favorite lunch?

11. Desert? What do you have to have that you make yourself?

12. Favorite veggie to prepare? How?

13. Most interesting item you've ever eaten and/or cooked?

14. Favorite kitchen gadget(s)?

15. Ever caught the kitchen on fire?

16. Are you the grill master? What are you best at grilling?

17. What would your dream kitchen include?

18. If asked, what do you make/cook to bring to a party to share?

19. What did you have for dinner last night?

20. And, most importantly...are you hungry now?!
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Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Why I can't STAND Oprah...(well, one of the reasons anyway)

Not only is circumcision a cosmetic surgery forcibly performed on some new born baby boys, it's also now being used to help aging adults look younger. Even Oprah is singing it's praises. She smears on baby foreskin before bed...





Thankfully, more and more parents of baby boys are wising up and realizing that circumcision is NOT medically necessary.

Father's that opt for the procedure say they want their sons to 'match' their father. I'm sorry, are men walking around without pants, parading matching penises with their sons?? Who is going to know if you match? And what's more, WHO CARES!!!

It is in fact unhealthy to remove the all important foreskin. The smegma created between the foreskin and the head contains, just like the vagina, beneficial bacteria to stave off infection. It keeps the penis clean and healthy, unlike a newly circumcised boy who has on going infections and aditional procedures to 'fix' the first one. Mothers Against Circumsicion

Many, and I mean many, newborn boys have to undergo repeated procedures to correct the first circumcision that did not 'get it all' or 'got too much'. Have you ever seen a circumcision done? It is pure hell for this new child. Parents are told that they will be fine, which is a lie. If you really and truly want your son to undergo this procedure, go with him. Watch them strap his arms and legs down, clamp down on his penis. He is only hours old, sometimes less. I'm sure this is a wonderful way to welcome in the next generation of men. Circumsicion is Painful...and done with no to little anesthesia

Not only that, both women and men suffer from decreased sexual pleasure in adulthood due to the removal of the foreskin. Great Sex the Way Nature Intended

Some people are persistent that, later in life, the boy will want to chop off the tip of their penis to match all the other boys in the locker room and that going through the procedure later in life is much worse than getting it done and over with as a baby. Which is Worse -- Adult or Infant Circumcision?

It's so much easier to take care of when your baby boy is intact. Most baby boys are leaving the hospitals intact nowadays since more and more parents are educating themselves prior to the question pops up while mom is in labor. "Chop or not to Chop?" Talk about 'informed consent'... another blog, another time.

Friday, June 27, 2008

Name a charachter in my novel * Contest *

I'm diligently working on my upcoming novel and... well... I have one problem. My main male character WILL NOT tell me his name!!! He did finally tell me what he does for a living, but his name...the man is not giving up. I've been trying to get him to tell me his name for some 4+years!

So, this is where you come in. I'm starting a contest to see who can come up with his name. Wouldn't it be fun to name a character in a novel!

He is a chef, runs, and has two adorable kids. And when my female main character first sees him, she can't help bu think, "thank God for the male physique!" Yep, he's a heart-throb ;)

Ok, so you have your assignment. Can you do it? Can you get this guy to talk!?!? You can boast to your family and friends that YOU got to name a character in a novel...sweet! :)

Thank you so much for being a part of my contest. Have fun!


Thursday, June 19, 2008

The book I HAVE to write first

Have you ever felt compelled to do something? Like something was pulling you in a direction that you may have only day-dreamed about? It's bigger than you. Maybe a calling, if you will. That's how I feel about this book. The book I'm writing right now.

It all started over 4 years ago with a trip to California. I started making notes and yes, hearing the conversations between my characters start in my head. With my first son only 9 months old at the time and being a stay at home mom, I was excited to have time to write and a great idea to start with. Only trouble is, a 9 month old doesn't afford you much time to write! Or be alone to think about plot, timelines, character development. But I'm not blaming the baby here ;) No, it really wasn't time yet to write this book.

The conversations continued over the next 4 years. The plot thickened, changed, took different directions. New characters emerged. It was getting pretty crowded up there! And then it happened. I almost died.

What? Died? Yes. From what, we may never know, since all my test results show that I'm in perfect health (which is great news for me!) However, being rushed off in an ambulance and feeling half dead in the ER at 30 years old, along with other half dead people in their 80's and 90's I realized something. Those people had lived a long and wonderful life, and probably got to do the things they wanted to do...Me, on the other hand, was about to die and had YET to do anything that I really wanted to do. Mainly, write.

It's been a passion, albeit a secretive one, since I was young. Now, with death possibly looking at me, I was determined that if I got out of there I wouldn't let life get in the way of my DOING the things I wanted to do. Namely, write!

So that brings us to THIS story. Why did this story have to be the first book I write? I have plenty of other stories looming and wandering around in my head. However, before I write any of those I know I HAVE to write this one first. Therefore I am. I already have a really good idea coming up fast right behind it, so I better get a move on!

But let me be serious for a moment. This story. THIS story is my story. Although it's women's fiction and most of it IS fiction, the main ingredient is MY TRUE story. It won't NOT let me write about it. It's totally cathartic and necessary.

So, with that said, let me get back to it! I'd love to sit and chat some more, and probably will from time to time :). However, write I must and loving it I am!